Not Exactly Wife Material
Not Exactly Wife Material is the raw, no-holds-barred podcast about dating after 40 that you didn't know you needed. Join your host, Rachel, a newly divorced mom diving headfirst into the dating world, and her co-host, Sam, the voice of reason with a stable relationship. Together, they navigate the hilarious, heartbreaking, and often wild reality of dating in the post-dating app world. From awful first dates to unexpected hookups, they're laying it all on the line. Get ready for unfiltered stories, honest advice, and a whole lot of laughs. This is the podcast for anyone who knows that finding "the one" is a lot messier after 40—and it’s a story worth telling.
Not Exactly Wife Material
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Stepping back into the dating world after divorce feels like boarding a roller coaster you never bought tickets for. At 41, with kids in tow and a decade-long marriage in my rearview mirror, I found myself facing questions I thought were long answered: Who am I now? What do I actually want? And why does dating feel so much more complicated than I remember?
My co-host Sam and I dive deep into the messy reality of post-divorce dating, from the thrill of newfound freedom to the sobering discovery that some potential partners come with unexpected baggage (or in my case, suspicious medicine cabinet contents). We talk candidly about "Ski Patrol" – that first rebound relationship that taught me what I did and didn't want moving forward.
The podcast explores the complicated emotions that arise when you're technically separated but not yet divorced, trying to navigate casual relationships while your heart and mind aren't always on the same page. We discuss how co-parenting can actually improve after divorce, why setting clear expectations matters in every new relationship, and how physical intimacy after a long drought can be both healing and complicated.
Whether you're newly single, contemplating ending a relationship, or simply curious about what dating looks like in your forties, our unfiltered conversation offers both humor and insight. We're creating a space where the loneliness of divorce gives way to shared experiences and unexpected laughter.
Join us on this journey through the dating wilderness, and share your own stories with us at happyhour@exwifey.com. After all, the path to finding yourself after divorce is rarely straight – but it doesn't have to be walked alone.
Welcome to Not Exactly Wife Material
Speaker 1Hey everyone, I'm Rachel and I'm not exactly wife material, and this is my podcast Roll it.
Speaker 2This podcast contains adult language and mature themes. It may not be safe for work. Listener discretion is advised.
Speaker 1I want to introduce y'all to my co-host, sam. Hey guys, I'm Sam.
Speaker 2And I'm Rachel's co-host, Sam. Hey guys, I'm Sam and I'm Rachel's co-host for this podcast.
Speaker 1This is our first episode. Yeah, so we're both learning Go easy on us.
Speaker 1So the whole premise of this podcast and you know, in lieu of life's events, we're talking about my divorce and how I'm getting back up on that horse, uh, which y'all call dating um, now in 2025, and uh, let me tell you, pony, it's a fucking uh roller coaster, is what it is, and you know what? I didn't buy tickets. I didn't buy tickets, so now I have to stand in line and I'm doing this all fucking over again, and let me tell you, it's not not as fun as I thought it was going to be. Am I enjoying being single now? Fuck, yes, is it not as fun as it used to be? And no, no, y'all are weird.
Speaker 2So, to roll back a little bit, rachel and I we've known each other a really long time. We worked together. We met about 2012. I've seen Rachel when she was not married to her previous husband and saw her with her first kid and kind of that whole situation.
Speaker 2And we kind of decided, with Rachel's divorce and things and her getting back into the dating life, why not kind of talk about it and make it public? Because we figured, you know like there's a lot of women that go through this and it's a lonely process, even though you are supported by people and you have people all around you. But you know it's a lonely mountain to climb, mentally, emotionally. Am I doing the right thing For my kids? Am I doing the right thing for my kids? Am I doing the right thing for my life? Am I disappointing all these people around me? So we kind of thought, well, why not just talk about it? And it's a good thing for me now, because I'm a very private person and I don't like to put my laundry out there. If people know me, it's kind of a thing for me to like be more open as well.
Speaker 1You know, it's really nice that we have these. You know two different outlooks and I think that, um sharing it with all of you, um, you know what you can take what you can, or take what you will from it and use it and be like, oh my God, I went through something super similar.
Speaker 2That's really funny that I'm not the only one.
Why We Started This Podcast
Speaker 1Exactly, exactly, exactly, so, yeah, yeah. So we're just gonna talk about, uh, post-divorce, uh new dating and what it's been like for me, um, being divorced and getting back out there and kind of really just re-writing my future, because what I thought it would be is not going to be, you know. And so now I'm single again, and you know, going through this with my kids, and you know I'm 41. And I'm telling you, life after 40 is a tad different.
Speaker 2I think it's going to be a good like experience for both of us and it's kind of cathartic too, but it's funny to like relive all those stories and all those weird jokes and things and speaking of stories, if any of you have any stories that you'd like to share, you can go ahead and email us at happyhour at xyfecom and we want you to share all different types of stories crazy dating stories, crazy sex stories, crazy anything family stories, being married, being single, yeah, and polyamorous, I mean, I know there's all that weird shit out there with you people you, have you ever pegged someone?
Speaker 1you know? I mean, I guess, what are you?
Speaker 2doing here. You know, well, you know, yeah, are two gay people having sex.
Speaker 1I don't know is that really called pegging I? Think it's a uh born woman like a, like a biological woman pegging a biological man.
Speaker 2Yes, right, that's the way that I look at it I mean, that's what I think I think most people think that's what it is.
Speaker 1I mean, I think so, but I mean, please do fill us in if you have yeah, we want to know inside because we, I, we need to know, like, where am I going with this?
Speaker 2I need to spice up my thursday night. What are we?
Speaker 1doing.
Speaker 2You know, hello, it's thirsty thursdays, yeah only if a day of the week started with a P oh man, friday. I mean we can make it work Friday.
Speaker 1That is so fucking funny.
Speaker 2A Saturday.
Speaker 1A Saturday. I mean it does. I mean, can we do that? Can we add that? Who do we talk?
Speaker 2to hey listen. Can we make? This happen, you can make any day of the week anything you want, I mean I can do anything I want now that I'm single.
Speaker 1so, um, that is, um something that I've in, uh, embracing now, um which I will say that in the first, you know, six months was definitely something hard to swallow, um, because, not just the kids. Yeah, oh, god man yeah.
Speaker 2It was you know it was.
Speaker 1It was ultimately, I think, the right decision, you know, for both of us, but I'm the one that tore off the bandaid. You know I mean both of us, but I'm the one that tore off the bandaid. You know I mean I can do anything I want now that I'm single. So, um, that is um, something that I've in, uh, embracing now, um, which I will say that in the first, you know, uh, six months was definitely something hard to swallow.
Speaker 2Not just the kids.
Speaker 1It was ultimately, I think, the right decision, you know, for both of us. But I'm the I think the right decision, you know for both of us, but I'm the one that tore off the Band-Aid, you know.
Speaker 2So obviously you got a divorce and stuff let's talk about like how you've come to this part in your life, just so that we can kind of like understand what made you realize, like what made you tear the Band-Aid off what made you realize, like, what made you tear the band-aid off.
Speaker 1you know, the thing is is I didn't really realize what I wanted out of life until I got to a point to where I wasn't happy in, in in my relationship. And that comes from growth and change, and people evolve, you know, every few years you grow, you change and you go through these different stages in your life. And when I met my ex, I was, I was, you know, in a pretty good place. I had my own apartment and, you know, I had my son and I was working and things were were doing, I was doing really well, and so I was in a really good place. And when I met him, you know I I fell in love, you know, like most people do. And, um, I fell in love with, you know, us getting along and you know his family and so many things. But I never really stopped to think is this, you know, ultimately somebody that I want to be with forever?
Speaker 2Well, and you don't have to go into like your background too much if you don't want to. It's all what you want to talk to you. But yeah, you know you, you went through a lot of trauma growing up to you know and like with your family and stuff. So when you're attracted or magnetized to something that you've always dreamt of, and you've wanted. That is like a big factor.
Speaker 1Oh yes.
Speaker 2You feeling like this is all everything I've ever wanted and you like get totally sucked up into that.
Speaker 1Oh, for sure, because he was everything that I wanted and everything that I needed. I need someone who was going to be stable, who was solid and who Still living with their parents, still living with their parents Listen, they were roommates, he said, they were cool. I met him, I agreed, I spent the night, um, but you know that's where I was and he was, you know, secure and made me feel safe. And I feel like, you know, feeling safe in a relationship is just, you know, it really does kind of take the cake and then you kind of do forget about a lot of other things because of it gives you and for me, for me, because I never really had that sense of secure.
Speaker 1You know, like Sam was saying, I grew up.
Speaker 1You know that's a whole nother story, we're not going to do that today, but you know, growing up was rough and so, you know, meeting him and having the relationship that we had and where it started, it really did give me that sense of family and foundation, of, you know, being able to be me and to just really grow into the person that I was meant to grow into.
Speaker 1Be me and to just really grow into the person that I was meant to grow into and you know, having having that, having said that, I was able to grow and I was able to be better and change. The thing is, in relationships, all relationships, there's always going to be somebody that is not willing to grow with you, or that's just not where they're at. And so I don't hold it against him because he's a great guy, but we just, you know, we're not on the same page anymore and so, ultimately, I had to, I really had to dig deep and, you know, think is this is this something that I need to do for myself, for my children, for him, for the just the better of um our relationship?
Speaker 2because things you know, after being together for 10 years, things kind of you know fizzled they got fit, they fizzled and things got stagnant yes, and you decide, you know early on are you going to grow together, you're going to grow apart very much, so you have to you can't. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them drink or whatever the whole thing is and I know that you've tried a lot of things over the years and this or that but it's just sometimes, it's just not there yeah, it's just not inn in people.
The Decision to Get Divorced
Speaker 2That's okay and that's them and they just need somebody that can better match them.
Speaker 1But you guys co-parent really well now, and you guys are better friends now than you were when you're married it works out for the best and you don't want your kids to see you unhappy you know, and people always talk about divorce and how it tears families apart.
Speaker 1Nobody really ever talks about the healing that comes with that. Because I feel like you know, when people do get divorced, if that is the route and the choice that you both are going to make, so be it, but have it be a healthy. You know, there's no need for things to get ugly. So many, so many people get divorced and things get so ugly and use money and kids and it's like why you got to do that. You're already going through a divorce.
Speaker 1Shit is already South. Are you trying to go to hell? I mean, how far down are we going? How below the belt are we hitting? I mean, I need to know what's the, what's the point of all that. So, and that's just our, the, our perspective or our take on it was like, hey, we don't want shit to be any worse than what it is. We're already getting divorced and so now we're just we co-parent as best as we can, and we you know we're friends do we argue still sometimes, fuck yeah, and then I'm just like this is why we're not married and I can go home to my apartment.
Speaker 2You can co-parent your copacetic and your cordial and everything right. If you were good co-parents, you would still be married. Yeah, I mean like because, if you can, if you can get along really well and co-parent. Well, why did you get a divorce?
Speaker 1Exactly.
Speaker 1So like there's always issues and do stay together is because of, well, we got the kids, we have the house, we have our job, we go on our vacations. But it's like, is that living or is that almost robotic living? Like you have your routine and I get it, routine is super important, but you just get so caught up into life and to living and with with the kids and work and family, and it's like are you really happy or are you just going in the motions and then I think one day, I think it ultimately will hit you. What the fuck am I doing? Putting things that you want on the back burner or or things that are important to you? Cause there there's, you know, things that you want to compromise with, but you have your non-negotiables, you know you have your needs and it's like are you going to put your needs in front of somebody else's wants?
Speaker 2People have flaws, but are they flaws that you can live with or can like? Are they character flaws that you can't change? Yeah, that are some of them you can live with, some of them you can't live with. What is something that can that you can amend or change in the relationship? Exactly, I grew up in a lot of divorce in my family. Like a lot of people in my family are divorced, I only have a few certain family members that are still married and so it kind of um tainted my thing about getting married I'm like I never of course, either I never want to get married or I do, but only one time, you know, and stuff.
Speaker 2But my whole thing is I feel bad for the people that decide to get married younger or so soon, without thinking about the processes because me being a child of divorce and they have sex and they produce children and it's all about to me, them, and not about the kids. You get so caught up in being selfish about, like how you feel and you're sad and you're this and oh, I was like loveless and la la la and it's like very much you have no clue what's going on with your kids. You know what I mean and it makes me sad that people don't think and that's why I can't. It's really hard for me to comprehend, like, why people get married in the first place and that you just settle like that, yes, you've wasted now all of this time. Slash your kid.
Speaker 2Maybe it's not a waste because if you have kids and stuff yeah, from my perspective I've seen all of this. So it's like, why even go through the paper? Yeah, why even go sometimes? Why even go through that? Like, of course, I want to get married one day. You know, it's not, that's not a question. It's a really. That's not a question it's a really.
Speaker 1That's a really no. That's a really good question, though why go through it? I mean, you don't necessarily have to get married to be together.
Speaker 2No, and I right and that's the thing is like. I, I think about it, you know, and and stuff, because I've been a child of and you know, and yeah, um, my sister might look at it differently than me, and I know I probably look at it differently than her, and all of this kind of stuff.
Speaker 2But you know, it's just something that I've always thought about, of like getting married getting married and but it was so weird because at the time I was with somebody that manipulated me into thinking that we were, you know, and I thought that's what I wanted at first and I can't imagine my life if I was married with them. It at first. And I can't imagine my life if I was married with them. I would be divorced for sure, because I knew we wouldn't grow apart or it was just like grow apart, or you know certain situations. So it's weird, you know to think about.
Speaker 1I think that certain situations like that like you were just saying that made you kind of realize or think about like, oh my God, I'm so glad we ended up not working out or we ended up not getting married, you know, and I feel like those kinds of relationships are learning. You know, it's like you live and you learn. I guess you could say, but is it a hard lesson to learn?
Speaker 2Absolutely. Is it fun? No, but that's everybody that you meet in your life. I feel this way is meant to be in your life for some reason, to teach you a lesson even if you marry him or if you don't marry him, like you learn a lot. Because I was single for a very long time before I met my current boyfriend, like for like three to four years, and I only had like a boyfriend here and there for like maybe six months because I just wasn't ready and I was going through nursing school and I was like trying to like be you know, focus on myself.
Speaker 2It was truly like getting into a better mental state right, I was getting healthy with my body and mentally and becoming kind of one with the earth and the dirt, you'd say.
Speaker 1You know like really like spiritually you know, and stuff Find you and figure out what you wanted out of life. You know.
Speaker 1And women tend to wait a little bit more than men, anyway, I mean statistically that a life, you know, and women tend to wait a little bit more than men. Anyway, I mean statistically Something that I've encountered with. You know getting back out there with dating If you're not honest with yourself and what you want out of life or what it is that you're looking for, and don't give me this. I'm not sure yet, I'm still working or I'm thinking it over. No, you're not. You're not thinking shit over. You know what you don not thinking shit over.
Dating After Divorce Begins
Speaker 1You don't want you know what you want. You know what you don't want, because you go after it. It's always, it's a given if you know what you want. You see what you want, like when you're grocery shopping. You see the fucking ice cream. You're like you know what? Um, I want that. Do I need that? Absolutely not? Do I want it? Yes, what do you do you put in the fucking cart? Yeah, it's. Along with your other four bags of chips.
Speaker 2Whatever you have.
Speaker 1It's like dating.
Speaker 2Two bags of chocolate. You're like.
Speaker 1I know that he's not good for me, but oh, he looks so good and he really would look really good laying on my pillow and you know, I'm just going to go talk to him and it's like, should you? No, no, no, he's you. You've seen him before.
Speaker 2we know him okay as long as we've been there and that's like going into it right, you have to.
Speaker 1You have to know, like, hey, listen, you've been, you've been in it, you've read this book, you know how it ends. Do you want to read it again? Because I'm going to tell you right now you can read a book twice, but the ending is still the same. Yeah, that's, that's true, it is not gonna change, I mean you can add cliff notes, you can add what you want, but that motherfucker is still ending the same. So read a different book.
Speaker 2I mean, if not, then you know, write one or, uh, start a podcast you know, exactly, and that's what we're doing so so we kind of have like your overall story of divorce and being over 40 and what it's like to go out on these dating apps and stuff and let's talk about when you first moved out.
Speaker 1Okay. So, man, let me tell you, um, that was a new, a new world for me. Um, so, moving out, I um, you guys separated, you know we separated. Um, I moved out, he said in the house, and you know I needed to just get out there. So, no, no, no, remember, yes.
Speaker 2You didn't want to go out, no Cause I was in my work clothes and you were like I'm so tired. I've been moving, yes, and she was like really pushing you to like go out to dinner, and so you're like fine shit fuck it.
Speaker 1So we end up going to the bar. So you guys go to the bar yes, so we end up going to the bar, we end up getting some food. Um, you know, this really cute guy ends up coming over and just sits down down at her table mid convo.
Speaker 1Literally me and my roommate are talking and he just sits down and he starts talking to both of us and you know I'm like, oh, he's pretty cute. So then his friend ends up talking to my friend and he, you know, we start talking and he invites us over. So we go over there, we're hanging out, we're having some drinks, we're dancing it's super fun. We start making out.
Speaker 2And that's how Ski Patrol was born.
Speaker 1And that is exactly how Ski Patrol was born. We're just, you know, making out and stuff. You know I'm like, hey, you gotta take me out to dinner, you gotta take me on a date if you are trying to hit this. So you know what he the next day took me out to dinner and the next day I remember this now yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2That's crazy. He wanted to hit it.
Speaker 1He sure did, and so did I I cannot. My God, it was fucking years. Yeah, I mean, am I wrong? Married folks, how often are you hitting it? Okay, anyway. So I went out to dinner with him and yep, Slept with Anyway.
Speaker 2So I went out to dinner with him and, yep, slept with him. My God, I came so hard. That's what happens when you've been married and not having sex.
Speaker 1Seriously, I was like oh, and I will add that ski patrol is a couple years younger than me, which I don't know if it makes a difference. My ex was older than me, Not sure how that's working out.
Speaker 2You don't know if that's a fact Exactly All.
Speaker 1I know is my personal experience, and um so again, um, you know, it was great. It was great, and what was even better is that, remember folks, he's my neighbor, so it's like a two-minute drive for me, which is super convenient.
Speaker 2Oh my god, um super convenient how did it happen, though, like you guys went to dinner like remind?
Speaker 1me because I okay, so he picked me up but I can't.
Speaker 2It's been a while literally it's been like eight or nine people in between.
The Ski Patrol Situation
Speaker 1I know it was a really it was a really good date he, uh, he picked me up and, um, you know, went out to a nice little restaurant and, um, you know, had a few drinks and we're having dinner, and and then after that he's like, hey, do you want to, you know, come over and have a couple drinks and listen to some music? And I said, yes, did you have to ask again? I mean to ask again. So I went over, played some music, drank, and then, you know, I mean you all know- how it works led to the other one thing led to another made the first move.
Speaker 1Um, you know what I think he did? Huh, I think he did which is like surprising, you know, um, but um, you know, I'm still, you know I was excited, but at the same time I'm still kind of like newly single. So, you know, it was like kind of I was a little nervous. Well, also, you don't know it's like.
Speaker 2I know they say it's like riding a bike and it is, but when you've got 40 year old knees, I mean I'm not 40 yet but I'm 37, but when I'm just like seriously I don't know if I can listen I have, and I just had my acl replaced a couple years ago and I left me.
Speaker 1It's not the same.
Speaker 2So all you out there dropping like it's hot is shit's gonna drop and break okay there's no popping and locking, I mean hello, no it popped and locked up and then you gotta you get a cramp, then you gotta walk it out. You're like I need water banana yes, seriously rub it out, rub it out, rub it out like just hurry this up, hurry this up. It was just so, um, so it was good. Oh, it was very good.
Speaker 1Yeah, I mean, you went back for a second second third, fifth, I kept going back and you know there's no strings attached. I'm not look, I wasn't looking for a relationship.
Speaker 2He wasn't looking for a relationship.
Speaker 1And you know, I didn't ask any questions, he didn't ask me any questions and it was just kind of like we got, we hung out when we hung out. So it was, you know, fulfilled the need, exactly, exactly, hello. So it was, you know, fill the need, exactly, exactly, hello. We all have needs yeah can we remember that we all have needs I?
Speaker 2was listening to this um lady, just to kind of interrupt you really quick and she was talking about um sex and stuff and she was saying why don't people ever want to have an orgasm? She goes, it's the best. A therapist was saying this, the best stress reliever ever like. Why don't you want to get off and just go to bed?
Speaker 1you can fall asleep afterwards.
Speaker 2You have no commitment to being like honey, like we have to have pillow talk. You just get off and you go to sleep and you're happy. You've it's a and your serotonin or whatever fucking levels oxytocin, whatever it is I'm a nurse I should probably know that spike and do their thing like it is a great like stress reliever.
Speaker 1I cannot fucking impress that upon people more. I don't even know what that means you can't, I can't. Uh, is that means you can't, I can't, I can't?
Speaker 2Is that what? It is? Impressive upon you? Yeah, I can't, I can't, ok, ok, ok, thank you, thank you.
Speaker 1Thank you for a fact check. So you know, I honestly don't understand it myself. I know, I mean, people are taking all these sleep aids. How about you fuck and get a little orgasm? How long did it last?
Speaker 2You know it lasted the first time.
Speaker 1The first time it actually lasted a pretty long time.
Speaker 2Yeah, Do you know? Well, not at that point Like you want to end this, Like get this over with. No, not at all.
Speaker 1No, it was just so good, it was really good. And obviously that's why I kept coming back to visit you know, it's just like okay, well, this fits good, this is great.
Speaker 2So you know I spent the night. This fits good the next morning.
Speaker 1Again, there we are. And yeah, I was. Yeah, slept great, woke up great, day was great, day was great how could you complain had?
Speaker 2a smile on my face did you eat a burger afterwards?
Speaker 1oh, probably burger king. I lived close to burger king at the time? Well, no, and you love burgers if you were, we're gonna get into this about like rachel's favorite foods a burger.
Speaker 2She could be a burger oh, burgers, burgers.
Speaker 1Who's got the cheeseburger? You know? But yeah it was. You know it was fun and you know, while it lasted.
Speaker 2Yeah, but then you know things kind of progressed, I mean I think in your mind too, like if you're honest with yourself right, oh, yes.
Speaker 1We talked about this about how you started to you know, notice something, because we hung out a few times and you liked it, but you weren't.
Speaker 2You thought, maybe this could be something other than friends yes benefits like it could yes, potentially turn.
Speaker 1Yes, it's a good time. We laughed, we had good conversation, yeah and you were thinking, maybe you know just maybe even though, there were a ton of probably red flags for you like him not?
Speaker 2yes you know his like personal life was a little weird. Yes, he was not another lying girl, I'm pretty sure yeah, yeah, like in things like that, but even though you weren't exclusive, exactly and that's not exactly so.
Speaker 1That's another thing too. It's like, hey, if you're an exclusive with somebody, you know you really can't.
Speaker 2Well, if you laid, you guys laid down the, you know that's the thing is you laid down exactly expectations down the expectations at the beginning very much so you know, and he is gonna be like no, we said this and this and this, like that's it. And I think too in your little crazy mind, because we'll talk about that too. Like you can get a little, you know yes, I get a little attached yeah, and that's okay, but it's just like learning that about you.
Speaker 1You've learned a lot about yourself through this whole thing, so much so you um, so you went through.
Speaker 2Let me hold on. So you've learned a lot about yourself through this whole thing, right, and about your like attachments, and all of your stuff that you're going through. But you thought, okay, maybe let me just prep myself, in case, if there is, it leads to something.
Speaker 1Yes, exactly, even though I'm not ready. Yeah, you know, at this point you're just separated, right.
Speaker 2Exactly, and so you're thinking I'm not going to like jump into a new relationship. I'm still one, technically married yes, and two like I need to still be me. I'm just sewing my wild oats or whatnot.
Speaker 1Exactly, exactly, being free, yeah, how would you say.
Speaker 2And so then you went, then, so, so Ski Patrol was founded because you, how you found out Exactly.
Speaker 1So you know, you, you you know people I mean, there's people, I think, that you, you know, see things, certain things that are, like you said, red flags and some things. You're like, oh you know what, I'm just going to let that one go, or whatever. But sometimes you start to kind of notice people's behavior and it change and you wonder, you know, oh, that's a little weird, why is he acting that way? So I ended up, you know, being nosy, uh, as women often are, and I went to the. When I went to his bathroom, I looked. I just had this keen sense that I needed to look in his mirror. You know those little medicine cabinet, yes, medicine cabinet, exactly.
Speaker 1So I opened it and I found some medicine and it's a little sugar booger. So then I realized, oh, that's why he's acting a certain way.
Speaker 2Yes, definitely is.
Speaker 1You're going skiing in the summer yeah and let me tell you, you can't be doing that in washington you can't yeah, you can't see down grass can't, no, can't, won't happen I guess you could. I mean, you could might hurt, yeah or you won't go very far.
Speaker 2I'm not a skier, so I have no idea no, I got bad knees, yeah.
Speaker 1So you know, I don't see I know I don't do that um, but yeah so don't do anything, risk taking.
Speaker 1He had some a little bit of that, uh, uh, you know, uh, white powder there, how you say, and uh, there was no snow. So, anyways, I was like, oh well, fuck that's, uh, that's something I just cannot ignore and something that just completely put me off. And so did I fuck him after that. That just completely put me off. And so did I fuck him after that, still Abso-fucking-lutely, abso-fucking-lutely. But in my head I knew that this is just not going to be going anywhere. So that's where you just like, kind of unemotional, you emotionally unattach yourself and you're just like, look this what I need, and versus what I'm actually physically, what you did, physically what I need. But you know, yes, was it wrong? Of course, was it a bad decision? Of course, yeah, did I do it anyway?
Speaker 2yes, okay, yes, so you went through the medicine cabinet, yes, and you found, you know, the snow, the sugar booger, yeah, the snow, you found the snow. But we should explain too, is you know you? You don't have a problem with people doing drugs.
Speaker 1It's not that. No, not at all.
Speaker 2You just don't want it around you because you have young children.
Speaker 1Yes, yes, to each their own. Do what you like, of course.
Speaker 2But I mean, it's not saying that we've never dabbled in things before Exactly Whatever the case is. Yes.
Speaker 1Um.
Speaker 2I've personally have never skied um in the snow like that, but I've snowboarded at the U S Olympics or what A little bit with Sean White, but like I've, you know you, you had young children and that's just something that you didn't want to deal with, and that's also because of how way you grew up too.
Speaker 1Yes, very much so.
Speaker 2You had a lot of like childhood issues. You know drugs surrounding your family and all this kind of thing.
Speaker 1So if, as a listener, you know explaining that, so that's why it's not that you have a problem with people doing that. No, you know, having a little pick me up, yeah. I mean, but I probably should because I instead of having like 17 coffees every day.
Speaker 2I mean, you know, like literally right, yeah, I yeah seriously, you wouldn't need anything after that so anyway, so ski patrol so ski patrol, so you found that you continue to fuck them. I did, it was good it was good. It was good it was good, and sometimes that's what's really hard and that's what people keep going back, exactly because you're just physically it again it was like you know, it was a stress relief, it was uh, it was feeling wanted, though rich.
Speaker 2When you like deep down, like dive into it, like and we talked about this too it was like it was the first time in a really long time you felt like somebody's like wow, they like want me. Yes, maybe they don't care what I look like, maybe they do, they don't give a shit because I'm just a hole to them, whatever. Yeah, but it was the first time we're like wow, somebody like wants to touch me that way exactly.
Speaker 1It'd been a long to do that, been a long time, so it was, it was something to not, not just that. Yes, yes, you know. Again, it wasn't just like oh, I'm separated, I'm fucking. Now it was hey, I'm separated and I haven't been touched by a man in a very, very, very long time and so missing, you know. You start to miss that. Yeah, you know. And then you start to question your worth and you start to question like am it, am I not? Am I not lovable anymore? Am I not attractive enough?
Speaker 1yeah, yeah or anymore, and things like that, and so you, you kind of get to that point, but exactly it, it was the first time that somebody in a long time was receptive to what I had to offer but also was offering me that same attention. And so it was really nice and, yes, it was just kind of like it felt really good again to feel that from somebody other than you know my kids, because my kids love me.
Speaker 1Yeah, you know it's not like I'm lacking love, you know I have my children and I, you know they love me. But anyways, ultimately, things obviously ended with ski patrol.
Speaker 2Yeah, and we'll have to go into that. We'll have to go into that next time kind of ending into like how things ended slash, because it's pretty funny because you walked into him. You walked right into him on the sidewalk at work.
Speaker 1Oh my God. Let me tell you it was so just timing is everything, and it's really funny how the universe is like. Hey, you know what? Let me just throw this back at you, and if you guys have any stories that you would like to share, you can go ahead and email us at happyhouratxyfeecom.
Speaker 2And I know that's the first episode and we're just kind of giving you a little bit of the intro and stuff, but things will get funnier.
Speaker 1And we're going to get giving you a little bit of the intro and stuff, but things will get funnier and, yeah, we're gonna get some spicy stories are gonna come out and, um, we're gonna go into some of the dates that I've been on and, um, some of the people that I've encountered within the last couple years on those, uh, cringy dating you know cringing dating apps, uh, people that I've met or do know.
Speaker 1So you know, we'll talk a little bit about them and yeah. So I'm real excited to kind of share all this and again to get some of your guys' input For next time. So thank you for tuning in to Not Exactly Wife Material. I'm Rachel.
Closing Thoughts and What's Next
Speaker 2And I'm Sam. We'll talk to you guys next time. Bye, bye, guys. Peace.
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